Before starting my ministry at church a few years ago, I came across a website called STARR – Sexual Trauma and Abuse Recovery Resources, Inc. I checked out their resources and information and signed up for either a daily or weekly email. The emails were to help you heal, cheer you on, give you some direction, etc.
One day I received the most powerful email from them and it resonated with me. It stuck with me for days and I printed it out, posted it, and bookmarked it…. And thankfully I copy and pasted it into an email to my husband, because I can no longer find it online. But it said something remarkable. Something I had never thought of before. And it was POWERFUL!
It said I had GRIT just for being here… really? It said they hadn’t won… I was hoping so, still. It said I was amazing… me? It said my very breathe was a declaration of independence…. get out of town! It said I was a great hero… that is nuts, right? But the more times I read and thought about it… they were RIGHT. I do have grit! YOU HAVE GRIT! Our presence is a testament to our strength. I have strength. It means I’ve won! I’m here! I’m okay! And so are you!
It literally brings tears to my eyes… Still, right now while I am typing this. All those times when I felt powerless, weak, and unable to go on… All those times that I barely made it through the day, ha, the second… All those times when I thought I needed someone else to make me worth something. Those times were wrong. I was strong. I had power. I had control. I made it! I have grit! Hallelujah, I have grit! And so do you! Really, you do! You may not believe it now, but you do and WATCH OUT when you realize it! You may literally jump for joy, spin around, scream, cry, or laugh like a crazy person… but it will be GREAT!
I have shared this email with many people now. Hoping it would do for them what it did for me. Now I am going to share it with you. Please read it… more than once. Savor it. Take it in. Let it give you hope and strength as you realize you actually have those things already inside you because you made it this far. You are ALIVE!
You’ve Got Grit!
If you’re a survivor of sexual trauma and abuse, you have grit. Despite all you’ve been through, you’re here. You made it. You’re strong, resourceful, and possess a depth of power few people will ever have to have. You’ve had to locate something amazing within you that has given you insight, understanding, and depth.To possess grit doesn’t mean you haven’t been wounded. It doesn’t mean you aren’t still struggling or have complicated issues to resolve. To have grit means that your very presence is a testimony to the magnificent person that you are. It means that no matter what, you are getting back up and reclaiming your space – your right to be.It would be easy to define yourself by what happened – by what you’ve been through, but that would be too simplistic. What you’ve been through is part of your story and part of what made you who you are, but that isn’t the whole story and it certainly isn’t how your story ends!Every breath you take is a declaration of independence. Every resource you use, every conversation you have with counselors, friends, or support groups is an act of phenomenal courage that others will never know. The greatest hero in your life is you because you are getting back up, dusting yourself off, and proclaiming, “Not today!”You possess the heart of a warrior, the mind of a wise sage, and the drive of a relentless activist.Simply put, you are amazing. They haven’t won and they aren’t going to. You are here and you have grit.Written by Sallie Culbreth and Anne Quinn© 2016 STAARR – Sexual Trauma and Abuse Recovery Resources, Inc.
So… YOU ARE ALIVE!
It doesn’t matter if you are conquering life,
or celebrating that you just woke up and are breathing.
It’s a VICTORY!
You are here!
You have GRIT! ❤
“ But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed and all the Gentiles might hear it. And I was delivered from the lion’s mouth.” – 2 Tim 4:17